Most of the time, pre-marital counseling fees like another hoop to jump through before you say "I do."  You meet with someone who's been married and you talk about how to deal with finances, in-laws, children and love languages.  And all of those things really are important. 

But making theoretical plans for how you'll deal with those things will be a lot different when you get into the experiential throes of holiday planning over whose parents you'll see or how to discipline your children when the two year old just. won't. stop. screaming.  When the rubber hits the road and the fight gets real, you'll need more than a plan.  You'll need to know how to fight well. 


 

Pre-Marital Counseling

Your marriage will need more than love 

Conflict resolution is the most important part of a healthy relationship.

We bring more than furniture and cars to a marriage. We bring our pasts. Before you can go forward in your future together, you'll need to understand your fiancée's story - what s/he had to deal with as a child, how s/he learned to cope, and how your marriage will be a Divine Setup to bring out the best in one another. 

And when you understand your lover's story - when you allow yourself to be seen and to be known -
you can say "I do" with your eyes wide open.  

But when you yell, do you realize it triggers her? Or when you manipulate to get your way, 
do you realize you're causing yourself more problems?