Your marriage is a legal, binding agreement. A covenant agreed upon before witnesses.
Your relationship is a choice.
We all get married with stars in our eyes. We know what he likes and she doesn't. We understand we spend holidays at her family's house or vacations with his family, never mind we really can't stand our in-laws. We learn that in a conflict one of us
acts as the peacemaker and is usually the first to apologize, while the other holds out
- usually with a grudge.
We learn to fight, withdraw and then create some version of pseudo-peace - until the next conflict.
Over time we develop a system of functional living where all our basic needs are met and we are happy...ish.
But what if the relationship with our spouse was
supposed to be more than just functional?
More than living together with the common goal of raising children, taking vacations and pooling our money for a bigger house?
What if we could understand that our marriages are divine set ups to bring out the best in ourselves - if we can only begin to understand he isn't the problem or it's more than her just doing things differently?
What if we began to believe that exactly what causes us problems is actually the solution we need in our lives - we just have to figure out how to understand one another?